Pleasure in “Orange Is The New Black”

If you are like me and a whole lot of other folks you are watching Orange Is The New Black on Netflix. I just finished watching Season 3, Episode 10, “A Tittin’ and a Hairin.” There are many disturbing and upsetting things in this episode, including the assumption that women don’t take pleasure in sex.

(trigger warning: sexual assault and spoilers)

Pennsatucky Learns About Pleasure

We get some more insight into Pennsatucky’s childhood and adolescence. When she started her period, she had no idea what it was. “Mama, I’m dying,” she says as she shows her bloody underwear. Mom replies, “You ain’t a a little grubber no more. Now you are like a case of pop. You got value.”


Her mother also tells her that now she is “a tittin’ and a hairin” boys are going to look at her differently and also “do” her differently. Mom continues, “The best thing is to go along with it and let them do their business, baby.

However, what it does is highlight what happens when we leave pleasure out of the education we share with our children. If we don’t help guide them around what a healthy pleasurable sex life looks like, how can they know what to ask for or look for?“Emi

If you are really lucky, they will be quick like your daddy…It’s like a bee sting. In and out, over before you knew it was happening”. Pennsatucky responds, “But, bee stings hurt” and that’s the end (presumably) of any kind of “sex education” she got.

The rest of the episode shows the repercussions of that interaction. In it Pennsatucky,